Archive for May, 2012
Your daughter has come of age and it is time to start looking for a suitable groom for her. You may also be worried about a slight problem in her kundli that suggests that she is Manglik. This means that she can marry only someone who is also under the influence of the Mangal Dosha or pursue some of the rituals and prayers that are recommended to minimize the negative effects of this dosha.
There are a number of decisions to be made and you won’t understand where to begin unless you take the help of a qualified priest who can help you through the ordeal of finding your daughter a suitable match.
Here are some tips of how you can find for your family a qualified priest who is sure to guide you through the process of a Manglik marriage –
- While most of our lives depend on destiny, availing the services of a qualified priest can definitely help you ease the worries of getting your Manglik child married. The easiest way to find a good priest or astrologer is by asking for recommendations from trusted family, relatives and friends.
- Based on the recommendations you receive, make sure you ask enough questions to the person who makes the recommendation to you about the credibility of the astrologer.
- Make sure he or she has sufficient expertise in the field of marriage and matters of the mangal dosha.
- Ask around and talk to other manglik couples who are married and gauge the credibility of the astrologer or priest based on their experiences.
Once you have identified your priest or astrologer, it is recommended that you make him handle your case from scratch since many astrologers follow different philosophies and derivation of Vedic astrology. Based on the kundli that he creates and matches, ask him to make independent recommendations of steps to take with respect to ensuring marital bliss for your child.
Now are you ready to set your child on the path of marriage and ensuring that they lead a happy and fulfilling life with their partners.
You may have just taken your matrimonial vows and life has finally begun for you and your spouse. Irrespective of whether your marriage is arranged or you fell in love, or both; there are bound to be major changes that you will be making in your life to accommodate the new family member.
There are many changes that will have take place in your life, simple things like the sharing the same space at home, the way you plan your expenses and what you choose to do together and when you are apart. Especially in an Indian setting, where the bride makes the move into a new home where the couple is probably going to be living with a host of other family members, there is a lot more to consider than each other’s needs.
Let’s look at the various aspects of settling into a new life that ensures matrimonial bliss for the couple as well as the family members –
Sharing your Space
The couple may or may not be used to sharing their space with another family member, no matter the love that exists between them. This is a time of new beginnings, so it is important to be patient with each other’s needs and mutually set ground rules on how they intend to harmoniously share space within a home. If the couple is living with other family members they will also have to take into consideration their need for space before choosing to redecorate or make any major changes in the dynamics and structure of the home.
Sharing Ideas and Belief Systems
Even if the couple may have had sufficient time to get to know each other prior to the matrimonial, there are a number of new things you will learn about your spouse only after you start living together. It is important that you are accepting towards the many ideas, beliefs and quirks that you may or may not agree to. At the same time, remember that you may have some quirks of your own that may be unacceptable by your partner. A happy marriage is built on understanding and compromise. Now is the time to support your spouse through the transition, rather than focusing on areas that you do not admire.
Spending time together
The way you treat your marriage and your relationship in the first phase of your marriage is the direction it will take in the long run. If you try to avoid the transition process by focusing on getting your own personal space and trying to hunt for ways in which you can have a happy marriage without the need to spend time together all the time, you are asking for trouble when your marriage needs a strong and mature foundation. There is nothing wrong with wanting to spend your free time together. Look for more activities you can do together such as house chores, and other projects which help you develop a sense of togetherness and the feeling of being a single team.
The more adaptive you are to changes at this phase of your life, the easier it will be to settle yourself in to a blissful matrimonial.
The dawn of the internet age has been a boon for millions around the world. Not only has it become so much easier to conduct business, get educated, get a job and be in touch with friends; but it has most importantly had a tremendously positive influence in facilitating the possibility of two people meeting, getting to know each other and eventually tying the knot.
How technology fits into the Indian Traditional System-
Especially in countries like India, where arranged marriages have been a common occurrence over the years, the internet has played a significant role in allowing the system to make positive use of modern technology for social and personal benefit.
Indian matrimonial portals have especially benefited that sect of Indians who typically found it difficult to find life partners through conventional mediums. For example, because of the increasing number of reliable matrimonial portals on the internet, there has been a tremendous increase in the number of Manglik matrimonies.
This has occurred not only due to increase in awareness levels due to all the information that is now available on the World Wide Web, but also because Manglik brides and grooms are able to easily interact with other Manglik prospective without the worry of falling prey to any taboo or tradition and ensuring that they are able to take their relationship to the eventual and blissful Manglik matrimony.
Increase in Awareness Levels
Going back to a point we touched earlier, in addition to the easy access that parents, relatives and prospective brides and grooms have to thousands of databases of other interested parties that reside in all parts of the world, the simple function of the internet to provide access to a lot more information that is accurate results in awareness levels among traditional Indians who are able to take off the burden of blind faith and understand their astrological conditions before they assume their marital fate.
A Manglik matrimony has chances of success as much as any other kind of marriage and with the help of modern tools and technology one is able to ensure lifelong marital bliss with great ease.
For many years now, Indian women have been seen wearing vermilion, traditionally known as sindoor along the parting of their hairline. This has become synonymous with marriage and every time one sees a woman adorned with sindoor on her head, it is evident that she is someone’s lawfully wedded wife.
What is the Significance of Vermillion a.k.a Sindoor in the Indian Matrimonial System?
This red coloured powder is more than just so and has come to gain tremendous significance in the Indian matrimonial system. The traditional Hindu society gives tremendous importance to sindoor as a sign of a married woman. It is considered to be a visual representation of their prayer for a long life for their husbands. Not only is it an extremely auspicious element- one of the 16 “shringaars” – which a married woman adorns from the day she ties the knot; but this red powder also communicates to the world that she is under the protection of her beloved, her husband, her life partner.
Married women in India take pride in adorning this on their heads and are more than happy to show it off to their world around them. At the same time, the less fortunate widows are not permitted to wear sindoor after the death of their life partners.
What the Sindoor Truly Stands For-
Red represents love and happiness not only in India but more or less in every part of the world. Every Indian bride is made to wear this colour on the day of her matrimonial. She holds great bride in wearing the sindoor which enhances the entire elegance and beauty of a married woman.
The first time a woman ever wears sindoor in her life is on the day of her matrimonial, when it is applied by her husband during the ceremony. This is quintessentially at the end of the rituals and commonly marks the end of the ceremonial procedures. It is in a way, announcing that the bride and groom are now wedded.
Simple application of the sindoor is known to have a magical effect on the elegance and beauty of a new bride. Most women choose to apply it on a daily basis as a constant reminder of their undying love for their husbands.