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Tips for a perfect date

January 7th, 2011

You have landed a first date and are ready to go. Make sure you don’t goof up here and to avoid any faux pas on that day, follow these simple tips, as reported in telegraph.co.uk. Timing is key: First things first, don’t leave your date hanging around waiting for you. It will start the date off on a bad footing and may cause tension. If you’re going to be late, make sure you let them know well in advance. Dress to impress: Every girl loves a man who’s dressed to impress, so under no circumstances turn up in your work clothes or fancy dress. You may think it’s hilarious but we can guarantee your date won’t.

Cover up: Women need to be just as careful about their clothing. If you’re wearing a low-cut top then cover up your legs, or if you’re wearing a high-neck top then wear a skirt and vice versa. As for make-up, there really is no need to smother yourself – the natural look is more appealing all round.

Try something new: When it comes to dining out, if you haven’t agreed a restaurant beforehand then it’s always a good idea to let the lady choose. It shows you are interested in her choice of dining and are willing to try new things. Also, never go for a beer and a take-away. It would be most womens’ idea of hell.

Silent treatment: Another bad habit is that people answer phone calls during conversation. So, the mobile phone should at least be on silent, ideally it should be switched off.

Don’t get drunk: Drinking on a first date is fine – dates can be nerve-wracking and it’s a good way to relieve tension. That said, the worst thing you could possibly do is to get drunk and make a fool of yourself. It’s a fine line to walk, so be careful and know your limits.

Safety all the way: On the way home why not offer to walk your date back to their car, bus or train stop. This shows them that you are enjoying their company and are concerned about their safety.

Article Source: http://www.hindustantimes.com/lifestyle/relationships/Tips-for-a-perfect-date/Article1-527855.aspx

The main motive behind online free dating is communication and making of new relations. Unless it is supported by video chatting facility the medium of online dating is only written chatting process which we should consider a virtual conversation. Therefore articulation in chatting is important so that your personality and mode of communication should seem to be attractive to your friends and new contacts. Effective communication on your part can extend your friends network, so it is important. If you are chatting with your Mr. Right, interesting chatting is prerequisite to keep the vibes between you two super-alive. No body can deny that refreshing and vibrant vibes is the core of a live relationship; interesting chatting will make the communication livelier.
While we communicate physically we are greatly aided by our body language. Although body language can be added with live video chatting, in general online chatting we cannot use the facility of body language. To bridge this deficiency while doing online chatting we should know how we can make the chatting process more intense and interesting so that it keeps the other person interested and inquisitive for the next and the aim of online dating is fulfilled.
Unless you know the right way to chat online or expressing your intention by proper words, there is hard chance that you partner may develop misunderstanding about your intention especially about intricate matters. Unless you are confident about your communication skill and level of competency in expressing your intention by chatting, it is always recommended to withhold discussing sensitive issues while in online dating session. On the other hand if your relation is in initial stage in singles dating it is always recommended that you should not start discussing any intricate or sensitive issue via online chatting it may spoil the intimacy level if you are not riding on the same boat.
While running an online chatting you should remember that both of you are different entities and you may have different opinions about an issue. However different is your opinion, you should always respect others perspective and then only your views, however, off the beat it may sound, may attract others respect and due weightage.
Unless you are chatting in a group in dating chat room, it is unethical and awkward to run chatting with two different people at a time because in this condition hardly you will be able to concentrate in the chatting and in bifurcated mentality your answers may not carry the best message and your best intention always.
Always try to use the latest software on the chatting platform, irrespective you are doing matchmaking dating or networking because it provides supports like adding some animated icons which can make your online chatting experience livelier. It is better not to take any mobile calls or other online calls while doing a live chat because these actions may disintegrate your communication skill and spoil your positive prospect especially if you are chatting on singles website platform with matchmaking dating intention.
If you can add a webcam in your computer and ask your partner to add one, you can enjoy video chatting which is one the other way an advanced process of online chatting because here you will be able to add body language support to your communication and it will surely make your online dating experience more intense.

The first date with a woman can be a nerve-wracking time. You’ve spent the past hour or so with her and you start to wonder ‘what’s the next step’?

So what should you do at this point?
Well your actions at this point should be based on how well the date went.
If you’ve had a great time, then you know you can try for another date.
On the other hand, if you two didn’t click, then you should cut your losses and not try for a second date.
To give you an idea of what you should do, I’ve included four different outcomes that’ll happen once your date has concluded.
When you’re coming to the end of the date, you should do a quick evaluation and make a decision based on which of these four results you want.
Result #1: Go your separate ways

Let’s be honest here…
There are going to be first dates where you don’t hit it off with a woman.
Either there was no chemistry or your personalities don’t mesh, it’ll be obvious the two of you won’t going on a second date.
Once you realize it won’t work, end the date and cut your losses!
Since the date was brief, you really haven’t wasted that much time or money. By ending the date quickly, you’ll be able to avoid hurt feelings and will move on to the next woman.
So when you realize the date has gone badly, just end and tell her you have stuff to do.
But please be honest and don’t promise to call her you’re never planning on speaking to her again.

Result #2: You set up a second date

Many guys think a first date is only successful if you end up having sex. In my opinion, this is wrong!
There are a lot of times when you want to have a lot of fun on a first date, but don’t want it to lead to sex. This is especially true if you’re looking for a long-term relationship.
During your first date, you’ll probably get an idea if there is chemistry between the two of you. At this point, you can try two things:
First you can suggest a ‘venue change’ (I’ll cover this in the next section) and go on an immediate second date.
Or you can end the date if one of you has already made plans after the first date.
Now if one of you has to leave after the first date, I suggest you immediately set up a follow up date.
Here’s how to do it…
As you’re ending the date, take something from the conversation and playfully turn it into concrete plans for landing that second date.
For instance if she expressed interest in a particular type of music mention that you’re checking out a band which is similar to her taste. Then ask if she wants to ‘tag along’ with you.
Or even now that you’ve broken the ice, you could go out to dinner or promise her a home cooked meal. The point is one the first date has ending, immediately make plans for the second plan.
Result #3: Transition immediately to the second date

One technique many guys use at the end of a first date is to do a ‘venue change’. This is where you leave the location of your first date and immediately go another place.
Since you’re changing locations the woman will subconsciously think you’ve gone from the first date to a second date.
As I mentioned before, your first date should be real casual. But if you feel a lot of chemistry has been built, you can use a venue change to continue the positive emotions and go someplace where the two of you’ll get to know each other better.
The best way to do a venue change is to plan it out before the first date. If things go well, you can casually mention you’re planning on meeting some friends at this place and ask if she wants to ‘tag along’.
If she agrees you should immediately leave the location of your first date and transition right into the second.
Result #4: Make things sexual

Regardless of whether you’ve pulled a venue change or just had a single date, there might be an opportunity to have sex with a woman on the first date.
Now before we proceed, I just want to mention that having sex on the first date is an event that doesn’t happen very often, especially if you’re trying to build a relationship. So don’t be too disappointed if it doesn’t happen.
On the other hand, if you’re determined to have sex then you should first find outif she is interested in you in a sexual way. The best way to determine this is to kiss her. What I like to do is use ‘The Kiss Test’ from the Double Your Dating system.
If you determine she wants to make things more intimate, you can try going back to one your places. Then once you’re in private, you can allow nature to take its course and let the rest of the evening evolve…

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Scott_Patterson

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