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There is no set formula to fall in love or force someone to fall in love with you. Yet, if you have found yourself someone who you believe you want to spend the rest of your life with, you need to put make sure that you start preparing yourself for a giving and committed relationship which focuses on doing everything that makes your partner happy and captivates his heart.
Here are a few simple tips to keep in mind that help you develop a long-lasting relationship with your partner:
1. Respect:
The first and foremost aspect that is sure to captivate the heart of your man is showing him some respect. This is crucial to building a strong foundation for your relationship. The more respect you will give him the easier it will be for him to grow his love for you.
2. Be understanding:
It is one thing to show concern through the day about how his day went, but make sure you are not crossing the line and stalking him. Be understanding about his work schedule and learn how to give him space. The more you let go the more he will be drawn to you.
Also, if you are already in a relationship, be empathizing about his time with his guy friends and encourage him to go spend some time with them to play sports etc. Try not to be too impatient and your better half is sure to be happier.
3. Listen:
Though women are considered the talkers, remember that the men like to talk about their work day, things that are stressing them and the achievements they made that day as much as women do. One of the sure shot ways of captivating a man’s heart is by developing a strong listening capacity. Avoid giving unsolicited advice and just give your partner two good ears. Your support and encouragement will be more than enough to gain a special place in the heart of your man.
4. Compliment him:
Just like we like to be appreciated every once in a while, men can be pretty attention seeking especially from their partners. Be open to complimenting him regularly, and genuinely. Appreciate him for all the hard work that he is putting in to provide comfort for you and your family. Not only will he feel supported but he will also be motivated to continue doing so.
5. The pleasure of the little things:
While you are expecting your man to always get innovative about celebrating your birthday, anniversary or any other important occasion, let the tables turn and take the initiative to do something sweet for him. You don’t even need to wait for an occasion. Cook him his favourite meal, have a private candle light dinner, write him little notes and letters of appreciation.
Believe it or not, captivating a man’s heart is far easier than one can imagine. If treated correctly, men can be extremely giving and loving. Remember not to exploit their selflessness. The best way to captivate a man’s heart is treating your partner the exact same way you want them to treat you.
Nowadays boys and girls find their life partners themselves and parents shower their blessings on children for their happy married life. Traditionally matchmaking was done through parents, relatives, marriage bureaus and classified ads in the newspaper but now online matrimony is gaining popularity. The online matchmaking has unlocked the possibilities to view photos and interest and get in touch with shortlisted profiles.
If you are looking for a Manglik partner, www.Mangliks.com is a world most successful matrimony website for Indians where you can find your life partner by free registration or with a paid membership.
Mother plays an important role while selecting life partner’s for their children. With time changing, mothers have realized now that the requisite for marriage is to encourage their children to be well familiar with their future partner. This is nothing like the earlier times where a couple of meetings were enough to get their children married.
The opinion of a family is very essential when it comes to their child’s wedding. Family puts their best efforts to ensure that their children get the best life partner. Mother is the only one who teaches their children about successful love relation. For parents, nothing will be more important in their children’s lives than the success of their marriage.
Nowadays mothers are more open with their children about the idea of getting to know their life partner before marriage. Mothers know that it is very important to let their children know their partner earlier to getting married. Marriage is the biggest and most important step in life.
After reading this article and visiting on the site, I am sure you will find your bride here and surprise your mom by taking her opinion about her daughter-in law. This will be the biggest gift for your mom on this mother’s day.
Concentrating on your partners’ physical attractiveness may make you less happy in relationships, according to a new study.
The study also found that magazines and movies that portray people as sex objects can cause you to see your partner in that light, though not yourself, reports Live Science.
Self-objectification” when a person is obsessively concerned about how he or she looks” has been shown to affect women’s self-image, school performance and life happiness. But this quality hasn’t been studied much in the context of romantic relationships.
Partner-objectification, where that focus is placed on a partner’s physical qualities over everything else, hasn’t been studied at all in this context.
“If you have these kinds of thoughts and beliefs about your partner, it might be a block that stops you from having that intimacy, which is important in relationships,” said study researcher Eileen Zurbriggen of the University of California, Santa Cruz.
For her study, Zurbriggen polled 159 sophomores at her university. The students were asked to fill out a survey on their romantic relationships (current or previous), their media consumption and their feelings of objectification.
Objectification was measured by how strongly the students agreed or disagreed with statements such as: “I rarely think about how I/my partner looks”; “I rarely compare how I/my partner looks with how others look”; and “I often worry about whether the clothes I’m/my partner is wearing make me/them look good.”
The men showed higher levels of partner-objectification than the women, but both reported similar levels of self-objectification, in contrast to previous studies.
Women are traditionally believed to be more self-objectifying.
Based on the participants’ responses, Zurbriggen found that the greater their consumption of objectifying media of all kinds, the more likely they were to focus on their partner’s looks.
Zurbriggen found that partner-objectification lowered relationship satisfaction, as well as men’s sexual satisfaction.
“This could be because concentrating on your partner’s attractiveness tends to make you less concerned with your partner as a whole, leading to a less satisfying relationship and decreased intimacy,” she said.
Article Source: http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-04-09/man-woman/29400337_1_partner-study-relationship
A new study has challenged popular beliefs that love is destined to flicker and flame out in course of time.
Researchers at Stony Brook University in New York have found that people can be as madly in love with each other a couple of decades into marriage as they were when they met, reports CBS News.
They conducted brain scans on couples in the early and long-term stages of relationships.
“The couples were shown a picture of their significant other and it highlighted the reward centre (of the brain). So what that can tell us is (that lifelong love is) not mythical, it’s not fairy tale, it shows the same kind of reaction in both (early and long-term relationships), and that’s wonderful news,” said ‘Early Show’ contributor and psychologist Dr. Jennifer Hartstein.
“The more colour highlights (on the scan reveals) the fact that there is a greater attachment that’s built. Attachment areas grow over time,” she added.
“Love can last much longer than we really thought about because their divorce rate is so high. So I think this is really hopeful that maybe love is equally long-lasting,” said Hartstein.
‘Early Show’ co-anchor Jeff Glor said one important part of the study was that long-term couples who said they were madly in love still have sex frequently.
So how important is sex in a relationship?
“Sex is important for lots of reasons. We know there are actually a physical health benefit, mental health benefit, and most importantly, keeps you connected to your partner. And that’s only going to build passion and positive feeling towards the other person,” said Hartstein.
But beyond sex, she said it is communication that makes a relationship last.
“You have to keep the communication open, working on keeping the connection together and appreciating one another,” she added.
Article Source: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man/woman/Love-really-can-last-a-lifetime/articleshow/7366442.cms
International Women’s Day 8th March 2011, a century of celebrations, with a discussion of whether love and romance elude successful women is a well-wanted and important discussion today. With many women wanting to set up a successful career, and not wanting to tie the knot till the 30’s makes love and romance easy for some and almost impossible for others. The question is that is this due to the egoistic nature of men or uncompromising nature of such women.
What men want in women for love and romance:
Most men with a sense of ego and uncompromising nature expect women to be beautiful with a trim body and smooth skin. They love women who care for hygiene and cleanliness and would care and nurture best for their family, home and children. The style and color of their clothing that makes them look good is also among what men look for in women.
Men love women with a sense of pride in her abilities, making them feel secure and wanted, however they detest women with overconfident and vanity. An outgoing woman, those with a good sense of humor and interest in common topics and topics interesting to them is appreciated by men.
It is also true that men cannot tolerate women that are more successful than them and crave for attention, praise and love to feel precious. Men love appreciating other women but would detest if their women got extra attention from other men. Though they appreciate informative and those women with a good senses of humor they find it difficult tolerating women who are more better informed and sometimes run them on their wrong side.
Can successful women be successful in romance too:
The fact that men are ill prepared for relationships with successful woman comes from their need to feel important and wanted. This is evident in some men and my observation of my friend Rama makes me feel this conviction is true. She held a successful job in a multinational company, with her husband running a small business at the time of marriage. Rama was a graduate and her husband a pass out from school, their differences increased when her husband’s business collapsed and he had to find a job elsewhere. This was the beginning of problems in their life; love and romance eluded her.
My thoughts go to Vikasini in her late 30’s, running a successful beauty business. Her attempts to find a person for marriage to enjoy love and romance have so far not been met with much positive response. I come to know that the perceptive of most prospective grooms felt that being successful, she would be uncompromising in their love life, though I have always felt she was full of love and affection.
I fail to agree with the fact that all successful women are not compromising in personal fronts. Niupama the Vice President in a big multinational company is the most compromising successful woman. She manages her career and family life well, with time on Saturdays and Sundays being fully spent on the family and children. In addition, she spends time with her children and husband in the nights catering to their interests and needs.
It is true, women placing importance on success and power is a bye product of centuries long dominance of men, as my daughter Vishaka started making a success of her life as a result of what she saw in my life, she believes success can give her more in life. Though intimidating to men wanting just beauty and youth, I would not say that these women are wrong. I am sure they would be able to find love and romance with men accepting them as they are and those caring for quality companionship in life.
Some men have benefited with accepting women as they are and have gained on a sense of companionship, belonging and security in love and romance. My friend Radha’s husband is an example, he appreciated her bold and uncompromising decision to break her engagement with her fiancé because he was just a ‘mama’s boy’ and did not respect her views.
As we celebrate the Centenary Year of International Women’s Day on 8th March 2011, I ask you to examine such instances in people around you and examine whether it is true that love and romance elude successful women or is it a matter of ones own perception.
Article Source:http://she.sulekha.com/international-womens-day-2011-romance-and-successful_03_2011_postedby_nirmalaspeaks