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Do you want commitment, love, and a great relationship? Are you ready to move beyond playing the field? Do you know how to get your guy to commit to you? Most women do not understand that there are just a few simple things to remember if you want to make that guy realize how absolutely amazing you are. Here are a few ideas to move you along when trying to intertwine love and relationships.
So, you’ve met a great guy and you would love to spend every minute with him! DON’T! Even in the excitement of a new relationship, being always available drastically decreases your enticement quotient. Keep up with your pre-guy activities. Here are a few things to remember:
1.) Being always available translates to making it too easy for him.
2.) Being always available translates to boring.
3.) Being always available translates to no challenge, no prize.
4.) Being always available translates to same old, same old…
Being always available quite often means love and your relationship might stall because of the reasons stated above.
Now, a few things to keep in mind when you are with him. Be exciting and find different, exciting things to talk about. For example, did he know the local college team is going to the playoffs, or that great cover band will be playing at a downtown bar on Friday night? Tell him about the killer rib-eye steaks you grilled for dinner or that hilarious reality show you watched the night before. Definitely tell stories about other friends, including guys. It can’t hurt to let him wonder if he has a little competition, right? But, do stay away from talking politics until you are sure of that love and relationship. If you don’t see that happening, move on. You have the tools to find one of those other great guys out there.
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For those of you who’ve been too absorbed in the FIFA World Cup to notice, MS Dhoni just got hitched! The Indian cricket captain tied the knot with Sakshi Singh Rawat. Yeah, we hadn’t heard of her either. But that’s not why we’re concerned. The Indian skipper who’s been linked to Deepika Padukone, Asin and numerous other celebrities, just got married to a 21-year-old.
The girl barely got her hotel management degree when she met Dhoni at the post-party of Race thrown at Bipasha Basu’s home. She was just a trainee at Taj Bengal at the time. Her career hasn’t even taken off! It makes us wonder whether she’s okay just being known as Dhoni’s better half. Only time will tell.
After all, it’s hard juggling a career and marriage. Don’t you tend to focus on one more than the other? Well, meet these women who managed their careers beautifully in spite of getting married young…
Know what you want
Many people see marriage as one of the stages they have to enter into. It’s something like this: Education – Career – Marriage – Motherhood! But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can have a career and be married. You don’t have to sacrifice one for the other. The important thing is to know what you want.
“I knew that I was made to work,” says Karishma Rupani, a banker who was 22 years old when she tied the knot.
“I knew my husband thought the same way as I did, so I never really had any trouble explaining my reasons to work to him or my in-laws. I didn’t want to waste my education, skill or intelligence and sit at home after marriage,” she continues.
See the big picture
Husbands and kids are not distractions or obstacles to your career. “If you love someone and know you want to be with that person for the rest of your life, I don’t see how getting married to him can be an obstacle to your career,” says Yanjana Thuain, an HR professional who got married after a six-month courtship, while her career was still in the nascent stage.
“My career has definitely grown since I got married. Even after a one-and-a half-year maternity break, I’m back at work and raring to go,” Yanjana explains.
Stick it out!
Change is never easy. Getting married means more responsibilities, more sacrifices and may be even less romance. But the benefit of getting married young is you are able to adjust more easily and you are less rigid.
Ruchira Sonalkar, who got married at the age of 23 and thinks that it was the best decision she’s ever made, says, “It wasn’t all easy in the beginning. I had more responsibilities like weekend cooking and budgeting for a household. My salary wasn’t my pocket money any more. But the best part is we began to save early for a house and a car!”
“It’s a great feeling to be responsible for your decisions and build everything together from scratch,” Ruchira concludes.
Make him your partner
Striking a balance is the key. Set priorities for yourself. For instance, sometimes you just have to work overtime and at other times a wedding anniversary or your child’s recital is more important!
The best way to manage both is to communicate with your partner. “My husband and I make sure to talk to each other about our work pressures and problems. Apart from understanding and adjusting, he would help me with suggestions on how to cope. That was very important in the initial years,” says financial assistant Swapna Prashant.
Take things slow
Have you noticed that when women get married in their 30s, they have a baby real quick? Well, it’s usually because their biological clock is going tick, tick, tick! When you are young you have ample time to save money, buy a house/ car and plan a baby.
“When you get married young you don’t have to rush into everything,” Yanjana explains. “I had enough time to spend with my husband and get settled in my career before having my baby.”
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Long Distance relationships are a true test to a couple\’s commitment and personal limits. LDRs take a great amount of effort to maintain and often people involved in them, realize that they evolve into a state of emotion that they never found themselves in before. When your partner is miles away from you, it is very easy to let things go wrong and lead your long distance romance to an early death. Some people find it difficult to bridge the distance through communication, others become overly obsessed with what their partner is doing when they are not there and as a result they spiral down a road of jealousy and suspicion. They key is balance and following some basic steps to keep your relationship healthy and strong.
Communicate and visit often
It cannot be stressed enough how important communication is for every relationship, especially if it is an LDR. With the distance working to keep you and your sweetie apart, your defense is keeping all lines of communication open. It doesn\’t matter how you do it as long as you do it. Every long distance couple should find ways to communicate that make both partners comfortable and happy. You can talk on the phone everyday, send e-mails, faxes or text messages and whatever you do make sure you share your feelings and expectations and be true to one another. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone calls. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some \”rules\” about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them, consistency can help a LDR survive. (Check our Communicate Better and Travel section)
Avoid jealousy and be trusting
One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worth of trust until proven otherwise. Don\’t fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven\’t met or he/she didn\’t get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a LDR, you lives won\’t pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves.
Be positive
Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a LDR is essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives. Another positive points it that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, communicate better since you don\’t have \”face-to-face\” time and test your feelings. As long as you see the long distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too.
Long distance dating is all about a balanced relationship between partners; a relationship built on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination to make it work. The two partners should be reasonable about their expectations and willing to cooperate so that this relationship can lead to a happy ending. If these parameters are taken care of, you have nothing to worry about.