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Almost every Indian girl or boy who is of marriageable age and is looking for a potential life partner today, chooses to register with an Indian Matrimonial Website. One can decide to register on different websites depending on their requirement and their expectations of out a life partner. There are also many generic websites which cater to a larger audience or group of Indian brides and grooms, thus letting you browse through thousands of profiles to find that one person with whom you would want to spend the rest of your life with.
As a registrant, you will avail access to a wide range of database that consists of other potential brides and grooms as well as the ability to send out automated messages to profiles that you find interesting. If you wish to avail services beyond this, you are required to opt for the paid or premium service that further gives to access to a range of features that makes your initiative to find a partner for life much easier.
What Will I Get as a Paid Registrant?
If you decide to opt for the premium services of any Indian matrimonial website, this is the list of benefits that you are likely to receive –
1. Personalized Messaging – With paid services come the ability to send and receive personalized messages to and from other registrants. This will help you informally interact with other profiles more before you decide to take the next step.
2. Instant Messaging – You can also make use of the instant messaging and chat features that facilitate further communication and open doors to getting to know other single brides or grooms.
3. Protected Profiles – Some Indian matrimonial websites also allow you to share limited information with other registrants and increase access as and when you are comfortable with the people who see your profile. You can protect your photos etc., to make sure it is not being misused by fraudulent profiles.
4. Horoscope Matching – You can avail services such as Kundli Matching which allow you to understand before-hand if your horoscopes are matching and if your union will be compatible or not.
5. Expanded Views – As a paid member you will also be able to gain access to additional information of the profiles you are browsing thus making it easier for you to conduct a background check on the profiles before you choose to contact them or initiate a conversation.
Additionally, some Indian Matrimonial Website also choose to offer supplementary services such as wedding planning which makes the entire gamut of getting married so much simpler and less stressful. Opting for a premium membership on any website can benefit you in more ways than you can imagine. In addition to giving you access to other potential brides and grooms who belong to a range of ethnicities and professional backgrounds, you can also make use of these additional features to help make the correct decision for your future.
In spite of all the colours, dance, fun and impeccable hospitality of the family members, the success of any matrimonial event is often gauged on how good the food was. Very often you will find old people walking out of a wedding hall and commenting on the quality of the food first. One can imagine the pressure of having the perfect caterers and setting the perfect menu to ensure that the guests of your wedding party go home happy and with good memories of your event.
Indian weddings are incomplete without a buffet of mouth-watering delicacies. And thus, it is important for your hire a caterer who is able to offer to you a range of food items which satisfy the taste buds of all guests present.
Before you hire a caterer, make sure you have taken into consideration the following :–
1. While you are talking to the caterers, make sure they know what culture you belong to, which will influence the taste pallet of the menu. For example, Punjabi weddings will consist of a non-vegetarian menu with a range of spicy dishes while a typical Gujurati wedding will most probably consist of an extensive but pure vegetarian menu.
2. Identify the food items that the caterers are famous for, and request for a tasting session. Do not simply go by word of mouth and fix on a menu that you feel will work best with your guests.
3. It is preferred that your caterers are focused on catering to only your wedding party. During peak wedding seasons, it is common for caterers to divide their staff between multiple events, thus risking the quality of food and service offered.
4. Make sure that they are abiding to all the necessary health-codes and not risking the health of your guests.
5. Ensure that the caterers assign to you a relationship manager before and on the day of the matrimonial event. He or she should be your ‘go-to’ person in case of any complaints on the day of the event.
6. Also see pictures of events they have handled in the past. Gauge their cleanliness, quality of cutlery, uniforms of the serving staff and the aesthetics.
In addition to this, put on your negotiation hat and make sure you are able to get the best possible rate out of the caterers you pick.
Theme weddings are getting more and more popular in the Indian matrimonial setting since the last few years. With all its diversity and culture rich ceremony, there are a variety of themes from which brides and grooms can take inspiration from. Especially in an evolving scenario where more people are now open to marrying outside one’s cast or ethnicity, they prefer to opt for a different theme which can either be a blend of two different set of traditions or, adopt an entirely new tradition to bring to the ceremonies uniqueness that will be memorable for the family members and the guests that are attending.
Some popular themes:
1. The Splendor of Rajasthan – This is a very popular theme among wedding planners. There is a lot one can do in terms of decor, menu, and even activities to create the magic of Rajasthan in your ceremonies. Event planners can help you understand the traditions and rituals of a traditional Rajasthani wedding and adorn your events with the perfect set of events with Ghoomar Dancers, Katputli Shows and Sarangi Players to create a truly exquisite environment.
2. The Great Royal Wedding – Get married the way the royals of India would by either creating a palatial environment that transports your guests into the time of the Kings and Queens! There are a number of gorgeous locations across the country in forms of palace hotels and sites which are open for wedding ceremonies. The attire of the bride, groom and family members; the wedding invites etc., can be created to add to the royal feel.
3. The Bollywood Theme – Evidently the most popular theme in Indian matrimonial, there is a lot one can do to execute a Bollywood themed wedding. When one talks about movies, one automatically thinks about a lot of colors, music, dance, fun and frolic. Consider assigning different themes related to Bollywood for each event, where your mehendi ceremony could consist of a wise choice of relevant music, your cocktail and sangeet party could be in the theme of the 70’s and your wedding could emulate famous bollywood weddings.
There is a lot one can do with respect to themes if one put their mind to it. Even with destination weddings getting popular, there are more options for creativity, which help plan a memorable wedding.
With your matrimonial approaching soon, you need to start getting more careful about how your plan your wedding, or you will one day realize you have gone way overboard your budget, and you just didn’t realize how. With more and more Indian weddings getting influenced by television and bollywood, everyone tends to get a little extravagant when it comes to celebrating the wedding. Not only does this include your ceremony but a platter of other events that typically span over a week.
It is understandable that while you are planning your matrimonial event you want to take all the possible measures with respect to cutting costs without having to compromise on the quality of the events you host.
1. The first thing to do is to involve both the families and discuss the scale at which you intend to take the wedding. If this isn’t done, there can be a major disconnect in expectations. The idea is to make sure you are on the same page when it comes to how elaborate you want the wedding to be.
2. Also have clarity on who will be paying for what or what percent of the expenses will be borne by whom. You do not want to ruin a happy occasion with these stresses closer to the day of the wedding.
3. Now that you have settled the nitty-gritty’s of basic budgeting and payment, start talking to various vendors such as banquet halls, caterers, bands etc and acquire quotes. Get a basic idea of the average cost of these in market and shortlist those which are closest to your budget.
4. Don’t be afraid to work around your expectations to be able to stick to the budget. Just because you have a budgeted wedding does not mean it’s going to be of low quality.
5. Statistics show that almost all wedding spends exceed by about 15%. So keep that buffer in mind while you are setting aside a budget.
6. In addition to the basic wedding expenses such as venue, decor, catering, jewelry, attire, invitations, and photography, there are a number of hidden costs that also need to be consideration. Simple things like delivery of the invitations, salon and mehendi for the bride, etc. Try to dissect as many aspects of planning the matrimonial as possible, to minimize the surprises when it comes to planning the event.
7. Always keep an eye out for deals. For example, many stylists will offer early bird discounts to those brides who book them in advance. Try buying your wedding outfits at sales. If you look hard enough, you are bound to find some great designer wear at a reasonable cost.
8. Every penny saved is a penny earned. Plan the logistics of your wedding to ensure optimum efficiency when it comes to hosting your guests without having to waste any additional expenses.
Additionally, work on your negotiation skills. The harder you bargain the more you save. Do be afraid to demand for what you expect out of your matrimonial event. There will always be a vendor out there who will be more than willing you offer you his services.
While the western world struggles with drawing a balance between lifestyle, expectations and holding on to relationships, Indian marriages have been able to build themselves on a foundation which somehow tends to ensure sustainability and long-term endurance.
Today, it is believed that 50% of American marriages end up in divorce while only 1% of Indian marriages come to an end. This is a wide disparity in these figures; let us delve deeper into why it is so:
Arranged Marriage versus Love Marriage
1. As orthodox as it may sound, many people believe that arranged marriages last longer than love marriages. From a wider perspective, the Indian matrimonial system has been a lot more open to love marriages in the recent decade but yet stick to the belief that an arranged marriage has more chances of success simply because it is believed that love is one of many factors that make a successful factor. The Indian system focuses more on sacrifice, communication and minimal expectation out of your partner. In some cases it is easier to follow through with these qualities in an arranged set up.
The Union of Two Families
2. It is a popular saying, that in an Indian wedding, it is not only the bride and the groom that are getting married but also the families. The strong involvement of both families and the relationships that built herewith prove to be of great strength through the marriage of any couple. There is always the constant support of all the parents and siblings through your marital life which prevents you from making any kind of bad judgments and also thus making sure your marriage does not dwindle at any point.
Marrying into the Same Cast
3. Another major influencing factor in the success of an Indian marriage is the fact that most matrimonial unions do not allow inter-cast marriages. This may again sound very orthodox, but in the long run your upbringing, familiar background, and even ethnicity play a significant role in building your ideas, attitudes and belief systems. Marrying someone from a similar background ensures that you and your partner have similar ideologies which make your marriage and decision making in life extremely easy and harmonious. One will notice that several marriages tend to break because of this very same reason.
In addition to this, Indian marriages also encourage brides and grooms to marry into the same financial strata or profession further minimizing the gap of any differences that may occur. Marrying into the same financial strata ensures that expectations out the lifestyle stay consistent and no couple is under any kind of pressure to make the other person materialistically happy.
When you think about it, our ancestors have been able to design an extremely practical system for marriage thus ensuring a lifetime of happiness and bliss. Our ancestors have been able to take into consideration all the facets of a successful marriage and present to the world, a mantra of eternal joy!