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The quintessential Indian wedding ceremony symbolizes the purity behind the holy union of two people. While there are a number of derivations to the way a Hindu wedding is performed, the crux of the matter is that every tradition followed is with the intention to merge two different sets of people, i.e., the family members, as well as different communities through Manglik Matrimony.
Some call it Sapta Padi while the others make these vows in the form of Saat Pheras; both these rituals follow the same philosophy where the couple makes seven vows to each other with the blessings of the holy fire place and in the presence of loved ones.
First Vow: In the first vow as per the rituals of Hindu Matrimony, the couple asks the God to bless them with pure food and nourishment. The groom promises his better half that he will cherish her and offer her and their children abundance of welfare and happiness. The bride promises to be take responsibility of the household and provide him with food and help in any way.
Second Vow: The man promises to protect the house and the family, while the woman vows to be the source of courage and strength to him. She promises to find happiness in his happiness and in return asks the husband to be faithful to their love.
Third Vow: The couple asks God to bless them with the power to grow wealthy and prosperous. The groom promises to ensure the education of his children and also asks for their long life. The bride promises to love her spouse for the rest for her life and further vows to remain faithful to her husband.
Fourth Vow: In this promise, according to the Hindu Matrimony, the husband praises his wife for bringing sacredness into his life and to have completed him. He asks the higher power to bless him and his spouse with humble and obedient offspring’s.
Fifth Vow: Here, the husband blesses his wife for being the best-friend in his life and for having faith in him. He thanks her for having become a part of his life and enriching it. In return, the bride promises to trust and honour him and also promises to work towards fulfilling all his wishes.
Sixth Vow: The man expresses gratitude to his wife by blessing her with joy and peace. The wife promises to never leave her husband’s side.
Seventh Vow: In the final vow, the bride and groom express rejoice over having been united as one for eternity with God as a witness. They further promise to maintain the friendship and understanding for life.
The elaborate rituals behind a Manglik Hindu Matrimony are evident through all the ceremonies performed before and after a wedding. Among all the rituals big and small, the seven vows are considered to be the foundation of every Indian wedding. These promises are what create the sacred bond that binds together two souls for eternity. Any Hindu wedding is considered incomplete without the recital of these vows in any form.
Considering the traditions on which Indian Matrimony is based on, it is common that a marriage brings together two people who are completely unknown to each other. One may think it is a challenge to lead a blissful and problem free life together in this scenario. Though it may be overwhelming in the beginning, it is crucial to develop a sense of understanding between each and be open to communication to maintain a healthy relationship between yourself and your spouse.
1. Acceptance is the Key:
As suggested in the seven vows made in a quintessential Indian Matrimony ceremony, the first and foremost duty that you need to fulfill as a new husband or wife is to accept your partner with his or her strengths as well as weaknesses. Understand that trying to change your spouse or trying to convert them into the image that you created for yourself of a perfect better half will gradually have a negative effect on your relationship. Love him or her for his individuality and never compare them to other people.
The key to a successful marriage highly depends on your art of listening. Your openness to listen to your better half in the good times will encourage them to approach you in times of trouble. Be it problems at work or at home, even though you may not always have the perfect solution to your partner’s troubles, simply listening to them can provide for a source of strong support. A good Indian Manglik Matrimony works on your ability to share your partner’s happiness, aspirations and even opinions on daily matters.
3. Make Time for Each Other:
Considering the demands of today’s fast paced life, it is very likely that both the partners are working or have other commitments to fulfill through the day. It is crucial that you remove sufficient time out of your every routine to spend with your husband or wife. It is good to take vacations every once in a while, but be consistent in the time you leave out to spend together otherwise as well.
4. Be concerned for each others Happiness:
Another inclusion in the seven promises made in an Indian matrimony ceremony, following through with this promise is not as easy at it sounds. As a spouse it is your duty to identify the little things in life that make your partner happy. Incorporate them in your day to day behavior and your will receive happiness in return.
In conclusion, there are no sure-fire theoretical formulae that will ensure you a happy marital life. The idea is for you to mould into the new life with an open mind. In addition to the points mentioned above, be sure you are open to sharing responsibilities and manage financial responsibilities with utmost care. Also, make sure that your private life is maintained within the four walls of your home and not made too public and be open to providing for your partners physical needs. All in all, work towards maintaining a healthy relationship for life.