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There is no set formula to fall in love or force someone to fall in love with you. Yet, if you have found yourself someone who you believe you want to spend the rest of your life with, you need to put make sure that you start preparing yourself for a giving and committed relationship which focuses on doing everything that makes your partner happy and captivates his heart.
Here are a few simple tips to keep in mind that help you develop a long-lasting relationship with your partner:
1. Respect:
The first and foremost aspect that is sure to captivate the heart of your man is showing him some respect. This is crucial to building a strong foundation for your relationship. The more respect you will give him the easier it will be for him to grow his love for you.
2. Be understanding:
It is one thing to show concern through the day about how his day went, but make sure you are not crossing the line and stalking him. Be understanding about his work schedule and learn how to give him space. The more you let go the more he will be drawn to you.
Also, if you are already in a relationship, be empathizing about his time with his guy friends and encourage him to go spend some time with them to play sports etc. Try not to be too impatient and your better half is sure to be happier.
3. Listen:
Though women are considered the talkers, remember that the men like to talk about their work day, things that are stressing them and the achievements they made that day as much as women do. One of the sure shot ways of captivating a man’s heart is by developing a strong listening capacity. Avoid giving unsolicited advice and just give your partner two good ears. Your support and encouragement will be more than enough to gain a special place in the heart of your man.
4. Compliment him:
Just like we like to be appreciated every once in a while, men can be pretty attention seeking especially from their partners. Be open to complimenting him regularly, and genuinely. Appreciate him for all the hard work that he is putting in to provide comfort for you and your family. Not only will he feel supported but he will also be motivated to continue doing so.
5. The pleasure of the little things:
While you are expecting your man to always get innovative about celebrating your birthday, anniversary or any other important occasion, let the tables turn and take the initiative to do something sweet for him. You don’t even need to wait for an occasion. Cook him his favourite meal, have a private candle light dinner, write him little notes and letters of appreciation.
Believe it or not, captivating a man’s heart is far easier than one can imagine. If treated correctly, men can be extremely giving and loving. Remember not to exploit their selflessness. The best way to captivate a man’s heart is treating your partner the exact same way you want them to treat you.
Everyone who has ever gone on a date, they know how difficult it can be sometimes to establish a strong chemistry with a person who is sitting in front of you. Sometimes, your date didn’t go as well as you thought it would be and you fluster with the stuff that what went wrong. There are some dating tips which may help you to learn that how can you avoid those things which can ruin your first date.
1. Talking about marriage and children
Avoid talking about marriage and children on a first date. First date should be fun and frivolous, talking about all silly questions, flirting and giggles. If you want to know about their views on long term relationship then try to find more subtle ways to ask and detect their views. Try to ask about their job, living status or lifestyle, this conversation will help you to know if your date is looking for a log term relationship or it’s just for fun.
2. Lack of communication
If you feel nervous or uncomfortable on a first date and you are not talking, your silence may ruin your date. If the conversation becomes one-sided with the person whose sitting across the table from you may believe that you are not interested but the real fact you really are. Try to be comfortable with your date.
3. Insulting your date
While talking with your date, if you are being rude or rudely commenting on a person, then they may take it as a personal attack. It can definitely ruin your date. Try to be polite and cool on your first date.
4. Asking about salary
To inquire about financial status of a person, is not a polite question. You are not buying something; this is a life partner you are thinking about. This question guarantees to ruin your chances of getting a second date.
5. Talking about ex partner
You are on a date with him and he is on a date with you. Pay attention to each other and not your ex partners if any. In fact, avoid talking about other males and females generally. Just focus on each other. This will help you to move forward.
We hope the above matter will help you in having a good date.
Concentrating on your partners’ physical attractiveness may make you less happy in relationships, according to a new study.
The study also found that magazines and movies that portray people as sex objects can cause you to see your partner in that light, though not yourself, reports Live Science.
Self-objectification” when a person is obsessively concerned about how he or she looks” has been shown to affect women’s self-image, school performance and life happiness. But this quality hasn’t been studied much in the context of romantic relationships.
Partner-objectification, where that focus is placed on a partner’s physical qualities over everything else, hasn’t been studied at all in this context.
“If you have these kinds of thoughts and beliefs about your partner, it might be a block that stops you from having that intimacy, which is important in relationships,” said study researcher Eileen Zurbriggen of the University of California, Santa Cruz.
For her study, Zurbriggen polled 159 sophomores at her university. The students were asked to fill out a survey on their romantic relationships (current or previous), their media consumption and their feelings of objectification.
Objectification was measured by how strongly the students agreed or disagreed with statements such as: “I rarely think about how I/my partner looks”; “I rarely compare how I/my partner looks with how others look”; and “I often worry about whether the clothes I’m/my partner is wearing make me/them look good.”
The men showed higher levels of partner-objectification than the women, but both reported similar levels of self-objectification, in contrast to previous studies.
Women are traditionally believed to be more self-objectifying.
Based on the participants’ responses, Zurbriggen found that the greater their consumption of objectifying media of all kinds, the more likely they were to focus on their partner’s looks.
Zurbriggen found that partner-objectification lowered relationship satisfaction, as well as men’s sexual satisfaction.
“This could be because concentrating on your partner’s attractiveness tends to make you less concerned with your partner as a whole, leading to a less satisfying relationship and decreased intimacy,” she said.
Article Source: http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-04-09/man-woman/29400337_1_partner-study-relationship
A new study has challenged popular beliefs that love is destined to flicker and flame out in course of time.
Researchers at Stony Brook University in New York have found that people can be as madly in love with each other a couple of decades into marriage as they were when they met, reports CBS News.
They conducted brain scans on couples in the early and long-term stages of relationships.
“The couples were shown a picture of their significant other and it highlighted the reward centre (of the brain). So what that can tell us is (that lifelong love is) not mythical, it’s not fairy tale, it shows the same kind of reaction in both (early and long-term relationships), and that’s wonderful news,” said ‘Early Show’ contributor and psychologist Dr. Jennifer Hartstein.
“The more colour highlights (on the scan reveals) the fact that there is a greater attachment that’s built. Attachment areas grow over time,” she added.
“Love can last much longer than we really thought about because their divorce rate is so high. So I think this is really hopeful that maybe love is equally long-lasting,” said Hartstein.
‘Early Show’ co-anchor Jeff Glor said one important part of the study was that long-term couples who said they were madly in love still have sex frequently.
So how important is sex in a relationship?
“Sex is important for lots of reasons. We know there are actually a physical health benefit, mental health benefit, and most importantly, keeps you connected to your partner. And that’s only going to build passion and positive feeling towards the other person,” said Hartstein.
But beyond sex, she said it is communication that makes a relationship last.
“You have to keep the communication open, working on keeping the connection together and appreciating one another,” she added.
Article Source: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man/woman/Love-really-can-last-a-lifetime/articleshow/7366442.cms
Dating may have become hi-tech, but romantic rituals remain much the same, says a new study. Like in traditional dating, online love birds are influenced by non-verbal cues like spelling errors, the number of exclamation marks and the use of grammar.
Zoe Hazelwood, psychologist at the Queensland University of Technology (QUT), who led the study, has found that traditional and online dating are, in fact, very similar.
For example, she found non-verbal communication was also just as important in online dating as it was in traditional dating, according to a QUT statement.
“Although online traditional non-verbal cues are not present, in our research we found people do judge potential partners on things aside from what they are saying,” she said.
“People form impressions online based on things like spelling errors, use of acronyms, amount of exclamation marks, use of grammar – things like that.
“They may not pursue a relationship with someone if they do not like their writing style, or feel they have poor spelling.”
Another habit that is present in traditional and online dating was the tendency to present ourselves as – just slightly – more interesting and interested than we actually are at the start of a relationship.
Online dating has also allowed an avenue for people young and old to reach out and find connections, said Hazelwood.
“One of the things I found pleasing was that online dating stretched across all age groups,” she said. “In our research, one of the participants was a 76-year-old female. She and her partner, who was the same age, met online and were getting married.”
Hazelwood’s research found that traditional daters and online daters had roughly the same relationship success rate – despite many people believing that online dating was not as likely to be as successful as traditional dating.
Article Source: http://lifestyle.in.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=4928255&page=0