{"id":10271,"date":"2023-05-14T11:27:52","date_gmt":"2023-05-14T11:27:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mangliks.com\/matrimonial-blog\/?p=10271"},"modified":"2023-05-14T11:52:21","modified_gmt":"2023-05-14T11:52:21","slug":"math-says-this-is-the-perfect-age-to-get-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mangliks.com\/matrimonial-blog\/math-says-this-is-the-perfect-age-to-get-married\/","title":{"rendered":"Math Says This Is the Perfect Age to Get Married"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Math Says This Is the Perfect Age to Get Married<\/a><\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to marriage and age<\/strong><\/a>, there\u2019s a serious double standard for men and women. Men are often told to wait to get married until they feel ready \u2014 until they\u2019re mature, financially secure, established in their careers and comfortable with themselves. My own husband was counseled by both of his parents to not even consider marriage until he was 35 years old. He took their advice to the next level and married at 40. He was praised for his measured and mature decision.<\/a><\/p>This allows men both an extended adolescence and more time to find the right person. But women are not granted the same privilege. Movies and fairytales prime women to think about weddings from childhood, and the majority of romantic comedies promote the proposal as the happy ending, with most heroines just pushing the three-decade mark \u2014 but rarely surpassing it.<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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The pressure to \u201csettle down\u201d mounts when women hit their 20s, and if a woman\u2019s 30th birthday passes without a proposal, she can be made to feel as if she\u2019s missed her moment.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

My own future as a spinster was close at hand. Then I met a man thousands of miles from home on a boat in the middle of the Pacific Ocean, on a work trip in the Galapagos Islands. He proposed three months later, and we got married right on my 35th birthday. Thank the matrimonial gods! Seriously. Here\u2019s the thing: Women who get married after the age of 35 might actually be setting themselves up for happier marriages than women who marry in their 20s. And isn\u2019t that what we all want? A real<\/em> happily ever after.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The majority of my own friends got married at 28. Less than a decade later, half of them are divorced. Many marriage therapists, the people who help fix unhappy marriages, believe this is because wisdom truly does come with age.<\/pre>\n\n\n\n
\u201cAfter a certain age, women tend to have a higher level of emotional maturity. You have a wider range of experiences to evaluate a potential mate,\u201d Dr. Peter Pearson, co-founder of the Couples Institute, told me. \u201cYou\u2019re more independent, less clingy, less needy. You are emotionally resilient, you\u2019re smarter at separating the wheat from the chaff.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I was terrified of divorce. After all, I\u2019d waited a long time to finally tie the knot. In fact, I was so nervous that I spent the first year of my marriage crowdsourcing advice from around the world to figure out how not to fail at it. After interviewing hundreds of women across five continents and 20 countries about how to create and maintain a satisfying partnership, one of the \u201csecrets\u201d I learned was this: Wait.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Seven times out of 10, when I asked a woman in an unhappy marriage what would have made her union more satisfying, she responded with some iteration of, \u201cI wish I\u2019d lived more of a life before I got married.\u201d The most fulfilling marriages I encountered all over the world \u2014 in Israel, France, India, Qatar, Denmark, Sweden, Holland, Mexico, Chile and beyond \u2014 launched when women were 35 years or older, an age in the U.S. when we start to self-consciously refer to ourselves as \u201cpast our prime\u201d or worse, \u201cold maids.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Age at marriage doesn\u2019t stand alone as a benefit or harm. The most significant additional factors are:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
However and importantly, Glenn explains that it would be \u201cpremature to conclude that the optimal time for first marriage for most persons is ages 22-25\u201d because other critical factors impact risk of divorce and marital happiness as well.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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  1. premarital cohabitation<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. socio-economics<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. having parents who are divorced<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. educational attainment<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. general maturity and personal commitment to the idea of marital longevity<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. having healthy marriage attitudes and behaviors modeled by both sets of parents<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  7. involvement in a healthy church\/faith setting that takes marriage seriously<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  8. completed meaningful premarital counseling<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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