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6 Crucial Things to Consider Before Moving in With Your Partner
You’ve been dating for a while now, and are feeling like it might be time to move on to the next stage. Or, perhaps someone’s lease is up for renewal and both of you are tired of driving from one apartment to another.
Perhaps you’ve just got engaged, and want to cut back on living expenses to save for the wedding. Whatever the situation, the question has came up: Should we move in together?
Changing Patterns
This type of living situation used to be uncommon, but times have changed. In fact, almost 70% of marriages initiated in the late 1990s and early 2000s started off as “live-in” relationships. But as this situation has become more common, people who study relationships and families have sounded some alerts. Although many people think of moving in together as a useful “test run” for marriage, research has tended to show that couples who live together before marriage actually run a higher risk of divorce than those who do not.
As time has passed, these discoveries have evolved. Nevertheless, there are still some important factors to consider before moving in with your partner. Depending on what we know today, if you are concerned about future divorce risk and relationship satisfaction, here are some questions to ask yourself before moving in with your partner.
QUESTIONS TO ASK
- WHY ARE YOU MOVING INTOGETHER?
Is it 1) for convenience, 2) to “test out” the relationship, or 3) out of a genuine wish to spend more time together? The better reason, according to science, is #3. Cohabiters who move in together for this reason tend to end up happy in the long run. - ARE YOU ENGAGED? IF NOT, ARE YOU THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE?
The potential risk of divorce from cohabitation seems to decrease or even vanish when the couple is engaged or seriously considering marriage before moving in together. - HOW CAREFUL ARE YOU ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL?
Once a pair moves in together, the chance that they will experience an unplanned pregnancy increases quite a bit. Giving birth while coliving also increases the chance that your relationship will break up. (Consider your potential child’s future, too. Growing up in a stable family with two parents is statistically best for children.) - HOW OLD ARE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER?
The “latest and greatest” research seems to suggest that it may not be moving in together that’s the issue, but the earlier age at which people now tend to do it. We know that getting married too young is risky, so it would make sense that living together too young has similar pitfalls. One study suggests that holding off until 23 or later might be best. - HAVE YOU OR YOUR PARTNER COHABITED BEFORE?
If so, and you ultimately marry, the marriage will be at higher risk of divorce. - DO EITHER OF YOU ALREADY HAVE CHILDREN?
If one or both cohabitants already has a child, the relationship is more likely to break up—with potentially negative effects on that child, such as poverty and stress. And unfortunately, children who live with an adult male to whom they are not biologically related run an increased risk of being physically or sexually exploited. - ARE YOU MAKING A DELIBERATE AND THOUGHTFUL DECISION TO MOVE IN TOGETHER?
Various studies and researchers have cautioned against “sliding” into coliving without giving it careful thought. Making sure that our decisions are compatible with our values and beliefs is an important consideration for achieving and maintaining self-respect and healthy relationships.
It can become difficult to extract ourselves from the life we create by moving in with someone–acquiring shared belongings, shared pets, maybe even a shared house. Some call this the “inertia effect.” Before you move in, consider that you are making a major decision to become substantially more involved with this person.